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A highly sensitive person is someone who has a sensitive nervous system, take in many impressions and get over stimulated That person feels much empathy, feel other people s feelings, doesn t like too much sound or light, thinks and reflect much about the world, is creative, gets bored of small talk, prefers deep conversations, cares much about people feeling good, and defend someone that is treated badly, is uncomfortable with fights and doesn t like too much disagreement, likes company, but p A highly sensitive person is someone who has a sensitive nervous system, take in many impressions and get over stimulated That person feels much empathy, feel other people s feelings, doesn t like too much sound or light, thinks and reflect much about the world, is creative, gets bored of small talk, prefers deep conversations, cares much about people feeling good, and defend someone that is treated badly, is uncomfortable with fights and doesn t like too much disagreement, likes company, but prefers smaller groups and gets tired after a while because she thinks too much about everything, All this, I read in Susan Cain s book about introverts This book isabout encouraging these people to be themselves and not feel bad about it Today, the norm is to be outgoing and outspoken, but I get tired by these people I think a really interesting person is often someone who reflects about the world and think before they speak It s wrong that the norm is making people feel bad Deep people are often creative and interesting people It was interesting to learn about the highly sensitive person I picked up this book hoping to learnabout myself, but I m uncertain whether I can relate to the personality traits described Sand s claim that 1 in 5 peoples are highly sensitive seems like a stretch Some of the suggested coping mechanisms for overwhelming or overstimulating situations appear as an effort to mask reality rather than to accept it One such example is that if a colleague does not greet you on the street, it ma It was interesting to learn about the highly sensitive person I picked up this book hoping to learnabout myself, but I m uncertain whether I can relate to the personality traits described Sand s claim that 1 in 5 peoples are highly sensitive seems like a stretch Some of the suggested coping mechanisms for overwhelming or overstimulating situations appear as an effort to mask reality rather than to accept it One such example is that if a colleague does not greet you on the street, it may behelpful to rationalize that their eyesight is poor, leading to feelings of gratefulness for your own eyesight, than to rationalize that they may be angry with you, leading to negative feelings of doubt While I understand that gratefulness is aconstructive emotion than doubt, making up fictional scenarios to make yourself feel better is a form of denial There must be a healthier way to approach this uncomfortable scenario Similar to the above example, Sand shares advises that, personally, seem out of place in a social setting Then again, maybe that s simply because I m not highly sensitive I m not sure, I ll definitely do someresearch In terms of managing heightened sensitivity to the constant bombardment of external stimuli in modern life such as noise, flickering video screens, general busyness and other peoples views and opinions this is a very good workbook.I have mixed feelings about the typology of a highly sensitive person on the one hand it can be very useful to discover that the character traits and ways of responding have an explanation and that you may not be the only person who is like this on the other, you can In terms of managing heightened sensitivity to the constant bombardment of external stimuli in modern life such as noise, flickering video screens, general busyness and other peoples views and opinions this is a very good workbook.I have mixed feelings about the typology of a highly sensitive person on the one hand it can be very useful to discover that the character traits and ways of responding have an explanation and that you may not be the only person who is like this on the other, you can gain a label and every reaction can be viewed through the lens of a highly sensitive person At the extreme end this could lead to a victim mentally, i.e I need to be treated this way because I am highly sensitive etc.Can this be the case Are some peoplehighly sensitive than others If this is the case then are there senses, sight, sound, taste, touch and smellphysically developed in some humans than others I suspect that there is a different explanation, that of nature Individuals may have had to adapt to their early environments and if they have been bombarded by external stimuli, loud noises, arguing, negative judgements etc, they may develop a heightened sensitivity to these.If these experiences are stressful then this may trigger fight or flight responses which become ingrained It appears from this book that many of the responses of Highly Sensitive People are flight responses and the techniques suggested in this book echo this like taking an iPod around with you so that you can withdraw into your own world for a while or leaving social gatherings early when you begin to feel drained This may work but may reinforce the sense that flight is the only way to manage sensitivity.As ways of managing the flight response and dealing with difficult feelings such as anger, shame and guilt then this workbook is excellent as long as it is not seen as the be all and end all.If you wish to look deeper and investigate and understand the actual flight responses then you may be better off looking elsewhere.I received this book in a Goodreads first reads draw Huh, who would have thought I needed to hear so many of the things about something I ve been all of my life a highly sensitive person It was good. In today s fast paced, increasingly public society, we are expected to be resilient, to have the energy to manage a packed work schedule, social calendar, and a large network of friends, both online and offline, day and night If you find yourself struggling to live up to, or even enjoy, these non stop social expectations, then this book is for youWritten for highly sensitive people, the book explains the characteristics of being highly sensitive and how to overcome common difficulties, such as low self esteem and the exhausting effects of socialising Ilse Sand also encourages you to explore and appreciate the advantages of high sensitivity, including your aptitude for depth, intensity and presence, and suggests activities to calm and inspire Clearly a nice guide for anyone who hits high sensitivity mark In today s world it s extremely easy with disturbing social networks behaviors Although superficial, the book mentions lots of therapeutic tools to cope with anxiety and being overly sensitive to life. i remember reading Susan Cain s Quiet ages ago and that book turned out to be so eye opening to me, because i have always struggled with the notion of being an introvert , as i could kind of identify myself with the term, but also not really.this book is similar in its message, and i m glad i came across the description of highly sensitive people , of which, stated by this book, about 30% can still be extroverts sometimes the knowledge that a lot of other people struggle with the same issue i remember reading Susan Cain s Quiet ages ago and that book turned out to be so eye opening to me, because i have always struggled with the notion of being an introvert , as i could kind of identify myself with the term, but also not really.this book is similar in its message, and i m glad i came across the description of highly sensitive people , of which, stated by this book, about 30% can still be extroverts sometimes the knowledge that a lot of other people struggle with the same issues as oneself can really help however, the classic picture of the introvert taking pleasure in being alone, doing things in quiet spaces, not being too enthusiastic about crowds and loud events and long socializing this never felt very right to me, as i DO enjoy these activites, and quite on the contrary, can t STAND to be alone for too long i went great lengths to never spendthan say, 3 hours alone a day, so i don t think i ll ever fall into the introvert cathegory.however, like other highly sensitive people, i am deeply affected by everything around me, from moods to global events to displays of art, music, emotion, beautiful scenery i react really strongly to all this, i feel like i m constantly overthinking etc i m glad i read this book because it helped me realize some things about myself, and these are my favorite types of books after all its great for learningabout the inner workings of your mind and emotion, and it will help people to know about this type of person , wether they can identify with it or will gain insight on other people s behaviour Oh, my dear friend Lucas. I m beyond glad to encounter and finish reading this book So relatable and helpful Very boring Nothing new, really. Highly Sensitive People in an Insensitive World: How to Create a Happy Life


About the Author: Ilse Sand

For many years Ilse Sand has been engaged in counseling highly sensitive people both as a pastor and as a psychotherapist Before she became a psychotherapist, public speaker and author, Ilse worked as parish pastor under the Danish National Church for eleven years until 2006.lIlse Sand has a Master s Degree in Theology from Aarhus University, where her Master s thesis was based on the works of Swiss Psychiatrist C.G Jung and Danish Philosopher S ren Kierkegaard The works of Jung and Kierkegaard has had an impact on both her personal life as well as her professional life and writing.Through her work as a pastor, Ilse Sand became interested in helping people on a deeper level, and she became educated in psychotherapy within Gestalt Therapy, Cognitive Therapy and Psycho Dynamic Therapy among others.


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